Why You Should Stop Trying to Fix Your Heartbreak (And What to Do Instead) with LiYana Silver
Relationship coach and author Liyana Silver joins Catherine Llewellyn to explore how heartbreak, divorce and life's darkest seasons can become profound portals of transformation. Drawing on her own experience and her work with women, couples and groups, Liyana shares what she has learned about the Dark Night of the Soul, the phases of heartbreak, and why the depths can reveal a more authentic and aligned version of ourselves.
They discuss the importance of allowing difficult emotions to move through us rather than trying to think or strategise our way out of them, how nervous-system support can help during the most acute phases, and why the right kind of support depends on where we are in the journey. This is a compassionate conversation about finding wisdom, courage and ultimately greater aliveness in the midst of profound change.
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Where our conversation went:
00:00 Welcoming Liyana Silver and exploring the meaning of depth
01:39 How a difficult post-birth experience introduced Liyana to the Dark Night of the Soul
03:26 Naming the experience and discovering that it can be a transformational journey
06:00 Becoming an apprentice to the dark and mapping the terrain of heartbreak
09:35 The ancient wisdom and archetypal patterns within dark nights of the soul
12:58 Feeling difficult emotions fully and allowing them to move through
13:58 The wisdom of “the poison is the medicine”
15:17 Why transformation is not a makeover—and why dark nights may come more than once
17:40 Helping people through books, individual work and couples work
20:00 Supporting a partner who is going through their own dark night
22:47 Men, emotional development and the courage to enter unfamiliar territory
25:50 Why nervous-system stabilisation may need to come before deeper relationship work
27:40 The importance of support, soothing and allowing ourselves to be held
29:08 The dissolution phase: when everything is falling apart
31:12 The task in the deepest phase: breathe, get through the next moment and soothe the nervous system
31:44 Trusting that the phase will pass and allowing transformation to unfold
32:54 Why strategising and problem-solving are not always the answer
34:22 Liyana’s books and the gentle, spacious way she supports people
35:40 A message for the “depth dwellers” and everyone travelling the depths
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Where to find Liyana Silver:
Website: https://liyanasilver.com
Books: Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce; Feminine Genius
The Heartbreak Transformation Map https://liyanasilver.com/map
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